Coming Out to Immigrant Families: How To
Abstract
Hosts Karbon and Emily share personal experiences of how they came out to their immigrant families, particularly when they come from homophobic countries. They then share key tips and strategies to safely come out to immigrant families regardless of the outcome.
Notes
Future research / gaps identified: n/a
Location: Canada (otherwise unspecified)
Community organizations: n/a
Integration timeline: not defined
Key findings:
Key barriers to coming out to immigrant families is differences in culture, laws, religion, and generational beliefs in the home country vs. Canada.
3 steps to do before you come out to them: a) Prepare for all outcomes, b) Plan an environment to come out in that is as comfortable, calm, and safe as possible where you can stay in control and c) Create an escape plan, including safety planning, self care, and supportive people you can reach out to
5 steps to plan how you will come out: a) Plan exactly what you’re going to say beforehand
b) Shift your mindset from resentment to gratitude; c) Paint a picture of what your life looks like now, and what it will look like if you’re out; d) Reframe their perspective: I’m queer and I can’t change it, we now live in a country where I’m allowed to be openly queer, things are harder without your support; and e) Lead by example by showing love and respect throughout the conversation, regardless of the outcome
Key populations: LGBTQ immigrants
Key recommendations: n/a
Open access: Yes